The Bowen Family Systems Theory, developed by Dr. Murray Bowen, talks about human behavior where the family is seen as an emotional unit. It describes how this social group operates with its complex interactions. The nature of a family is that each member is a part of the unit are connected to each other with intense emotions.
Dr. Bowen proposed that we all function as a dynamics of family unit and not as individuals when dealing with our emotions and anxieties.
Here are the different ways we cope with stress:
We indulge in conflict: We yell out and fight each other in shouting matches.
Distancing ourselves: We won’t deal with it; we’ll assume everyone will eventually get over it. But suppressing our feelings until we pass the storm is bad. As a result, we might end up breaking relationships.
Involving a 3rd party: We bring a family member or friend to help resolve our situation. We have affairs, we abuse substances or start exercising excessively to deflect ourselves from the problem.
We succumb to it: Physical symptoms like headaches, depression are just expressions of our internal stressors. And that’s how our anxieties manifest themselves.
The Real Effect Of Toxic Family Dynamics On Relationships
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Understanding Complex Emotional Connections:
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The Skill Of People Management And Conflict Resolution
COLLABORATION - A Pillar of FutureSTRONG Academy
Our children will one day face the real world without our support. Academic development is not the only skill they will need in the real world where people skills like taking the lead, emotional intelligence and a strong moral compass will determine who will shine. So, as parents who want to raise well rounded adults, we want to give them the right tools for their personal development.
Here is COLLABORATION as described as the 6 C’s of Future STRONG.