What Is More Difficult Than Change Itself?
Imagine you were watching a movie, and every single frame of it is predictable and exactly what you would expect to happen. Would you continue watching it? Just like how a predictable movie can get boring with a matter of few minutes, so does a life with no adventure and uncertainty can be painfully mundane and boring.
We don’t like where we are in life, but we continue doing the same thing over and over again hoping for different results. Change is difficult, because we often overestimate the things we could do and under estimate the time we need for sustainable change to occur.
How Does Change Arrive In Our Lives?
There’s a second way, when things out of our control begin to rapidly evolve around us. Thereby, bringing in change in a forceful way.
Here are a few examples.
1. An invisible, deadly virus has overtaken your world.
2. Unforeseen adversity at work or sudden personal health crisis.
3. The ecosystem that you’re part of as a team member is changing, leaving you with no choice but to seek out other opportunities.
4. The company you work for has adopted a new vision that doesn’t match your personal philosophy.
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Neuro-Logical Levels Of Change:
Navigating Change In An Uncertain World:
The funny thing about humans is that we yearn for change but cling to the familiar as if our life depends on it. We adapt rigid routines and can’t imagine shaking our predictable status quo. We don’t move out of our silos, our comfort zones, for the fear of risking failure.
Carol Dweck, the expert on Growth mindset, talks about how our Paradigm shifting happens in three planes.
• On the X axis is our mindset.
• Y has our expertise.
• And Z is where our extrinsic and intrinsic motivation lies.
When we leverage all these above aspects, we can navigate change well. Whether we like it or not, our life will grow through milestone events like graduation, job search, marriage, childbirth etc, the natural development life stages that most of us go through.
Only when we are keenly aware of the changes that are happening within us and to our circumstances, can we ensure we are staying relevant to our times and growing.
The Stages of Dealing with a Constraint:
When a constraint appears in your path, do you allow it to stop you? To “make the constraint beautiful,” respond, instead, by becoming more ambitious and finding ways to move forward despite limitations. The “tension” between the forcefulness of your drive and the force of the constraint fuels creative solutions.
People respond to restrictions in three sequential “stages”:
1. A “victim” reduces his or her ambitions and pulls back when constraints appear.
2. A “neutralizer” maintains ambition and goes around the constraints.
3. A “transformer” views a “constraint as an opportunity” and grows more ambitious.”
WORKS CITED IN THIS SECTION: Excerpt From A Beautiful Constraint by Adam Morgan and Mark Barden
Change Is The Only Constant:
We often stop short of working on our most audacious goals because we fear failure and misery. At the same time, we think something or someone will bring pleasure into our lives, but we can’t be certain of that as well.
It is important for us to allow that room for not knowing if we want to do anything with our lives. Only, when there’s disappointment, pleasure, anxiety and joy, will our life be a roller coaster adventure that’s worth living.
The Change Curve:
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