Why we fail:
Many of us carry a wrong perception of failure. We often take it as a final sign before we give up on our goals and aspirations. We see it as an irreversible milestone that has put a stop to our forward momentum.
What we don’t realize is that often times, we haven’t prepared enough for the task at hand. Or we haven’t used the tools at our disposal correctly. A needle can be used to repair, or stitch a brand new suit. Likewise, we can use technology as a means of distraction and entertainment and not to our advantage as a tool for learning and growth.
Here are the ways we can rethink failure and become unstoppable.
Price we pay:
Failure is the price we pay for success. The lessons are the value we get out it. We forget that it is an essential part of the process of learning and growing. When failure does happen, we take it personally. But failure is objective, it doesn’t have ill feelings towards you. It is an obstacle that shows up in everyone’s life especially when we’re moving forward with positive momentum.
Assess your goals:
In the heat of our ambitions, we might be signing up for goals that are unrealistic. Take a stock of your availability, your time and your priorities and reset your success criteria with your goals.
Get a perspective:
When you end up with unfavorable outcomes, take a step back to think. How will you feel about it two weeks from now? Just, don’t over think. Most of the time, the reason why you’ve been fired from your job might not have anything to do with you as a person at all. And just because you failed at something, doesn’t mean your life is a failure.
Set your mind:
Don’t fear failure. If everyone was afraid of fumbles and mishaps, toddlers will never learn to run, there would be no rocket launches or any earthlings in mars anytime soon. So, begin with a sense of purpose and an unstoppable vision of a mission, and you will fear no failure or disappointment.
Plan for failure:
Once you understand failure is inevitable, its easy to prepare for it. Have a back up plan for all the possible things that can go wrong. Set expectations, take stock of all possible outcomes, reassess your goals and try your best.
Define possible outcomes:
Before you set out to do anything, define all the possible outcomes of your action.
Doing so can help what might be an unexpected catastrophe can be deemed a small blip because you had expected a few things to go wrong along the way.
Not doing enough:
When it comes to “failed relationships”, we often overlook the systematic break down of communication that has led up to the moment in question. For any relationship to work, we must never forget to meet the other person midway. Its easy to get caught up with a tunnel vision about our own needs, which can lead the other person to feel ignored and discounted.
Learn from mistakes:
If anything, failure is a good indicator that we need to learn and grow in our effort for achievement. At the minimum, you can make sure that you shouldn’t repeat an certain action or task that’s led to the road block. It is important to try to keep going inspite of not knowing the solution before hand. Especially, if its a new thing. There’s a 50% chance of success than a 0% for not trying at all.
With a simple question you ask yourself, you can change mistakes into lessons: “What can I do better next time?”
Progress not perfection:
Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, but he also filed some 2300 other patents in his lifetime, majority of which remained obscure and unimpressive inventions. Bottom line, be free of judgment – of what you should be doing and where you should be at on the path. Keep moving without applying the brakes of self doubt.
The most predictable path to quality is quantity – but many people fail to achieve originality because they develop one or two ideas – then obsessively refine them trying to reach some kind of perfection. ~ Adam Grant
Thinking about our past failures can paralyze us and thinking about the uncertain future can catastrophize unwanted outcomes. Be in the moment to see the obvious path ahead, instead of over-complicating the solutions. Think small and celebrate each milestone along the way.
Pathway to mastery:
How many hours of practice do you think a figure skater endures before getting the perfect swirl, or the graceful leap. Ask Michelle Kwan, a figure skater, who once said, “Learning to skate means falling down over and over and over again.”
Fail big always:
Every hero is an underdog who has to fight for something. That makes you one heck of a protagonist of your own story. Elevate your game, and by failing over and over again, learn what won’t work the next time around.
Go on, inch slowly towards the finish line like a true soldier.
The greatest glory in living lies not in ever falling, but in rising every time we fall. ~ Nelson Mandela